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Feelings

Many people don't like thinking or talking about so-called negative feelings and so work hard to avoid them. And yet, by staying with these feelings in a supportive environment, feelings can become one of our greatest teachers in that they are often a smoke-signal to deeper conflicts in our lives. Deeply listening to what's underneath our painful feelings can provide impetus towards purpose, direction and action to consciously cultivate well-being and thus lift us out of the morass of pain.

Below are some common feelings and related reading material.

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Aggression

Anxious

Boredom or discontentment

Confusion

Depressed or sad

Distress intolerance

Doubt

Envy or jealousy

Fear

Feeling unattractive

Frustration

Grief

Guilt

Helplessness

Lack of hope

Lack of self-confidence

Loneliness

Loss of interest

Obsession (with things or people)

Panic

Rejection

Resentment

Rumination (dwelling on things)

Self-loathing

Shame

Stress

Worry about the future

Useful Reading Material

ACT on Life Not on Anger: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Problem Anger
Eifert, G. H., McKay, M., & Forsyth, J. P. (2006). Oakland: New Harbinger
This very readable guide aims to help anger sufferers let go of this overwhelming emotion. By incorporating useful real life examples, metaphors, exercises and mindfulness meditation practice this book helps sufferers to change their relationship with, and response to their angry thoughts and feelings.

Overcoming Worry: A Self-help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
Meares, K. & Freeston, K. (2008). London: Robinson
This easy to use self-help CBT manual aims to help people who suffer from excessive worry and generalised anxiety to understand the origins of their excessive worrying, and offers helpful tools for overcoming it. By using real life examples, questionnaires and exercises, this guide tries to help sufferers to identify, challenge and ultimately change these thoughts and behaviours that lead to worry and keep them worrying. Sufferers are taught how to tolerate uncertainty and how to become better at approaching problems.

Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness: A Self-help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
Butler, G. (1999). London: Robinson
This very accessible self-help CBT manual aims to help sufferers understand the origins of their social anxiety and offers helpful tools for overcoming this problem. By employing real life examples, the guide helps sufferers to identify, challenge and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviours. Sufferers break the vicious cycle of social anxiety by developing and implementing new thinking and behavioural patterns in relation to previously feared social situations.

The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: a guide to breaking free from anxiety, phobias & worry using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy
Forsyth, J. P. & Eifert, G. H. (2007). Oakland: New Harbinger Publications
The authors of this book employ strategies in line with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy that grew out of the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy movement in order to empower the reader to reclaim their lives and live them without the hindrances posed by their anxiety, worries and fear. As Forsyth and Eifert explain this book will ‘help you live better, more fully, more richly. ...No matter what kind of anxiety problems you’re struggling with, this workbook can guide you toward a more vibrant and purposeful life’’. This book includes helpful metaphors, examples and exercises that educate anxiety sufferers about their difficulties and teach them skills to overcome these whilst focusing on their life goals and priorities. This is an easy to read book that comes with a CD that includes self-report diagrams as well as mindfulness exercises.

Overcoming Anxiety for Dummies
Foreman, E. I., Elliott, C. H. & Smith, L.L. (2007). Chichester: John Wiley & Sons
This friendly expert guide demonstrates techniques which help anxiety sufferers to discover the root cause of their anxiety, change their thought processes and take control of their fears. Besides teaching psychological skills, it offers practical advice on relaxation, nutrition, exercise and medication. It is a standard yet accessible CBT book for anxiety.

Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness: A Self-help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
Butler, G. (1999). London: Robinson
This very accessible self-help CBT manual aims to help sufferers understand the origins of their social anxiety and offers helpful tools for overcoming this problem. By employing real life examples, the guide helps sufferers to identify, challenge and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviours. Sufferers break the vicious cycle of social anxiety by developing and implementing new thinking and behavioural patterns in relation to previously feared social situations.

The OCD Workbook second edition: your guide to breaking free from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Hyman, B. M. (2005). Oakland: New Harbinger Publications
The OCD Workbook presents a self-directed programme based on CBT that can be a very helpful resource for people with OCD and their families. The book covers the symptoms and causes for OCD, a review of the most effective treatments, a step-by-step CBT programme for combating OCD, specific symptoms and disorders in the OCD spectrum (i.e. scrupulosity, trichotillomania, body dysmorphic disorder), other disorders that often accompany and complicate OCD (i.e. depression, ADHD and Tourette’s syndrome) and finally it gives detailed information about reaching out to others for help. This book is an accessible and comprehensive therapeutic guide that can be used in conjunction with therapy or alone.

Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: a self-help guide using cognitive behavioural techniques
Veale, D & Willson, R. (2005). London: Robinson
This self-help guide presents a step-by-step CBT approach together with useful information about the symptoms and causes of OCD. The appendices section provides useful information about medication, available resources for OCD sufferers, self-assessment forms as well as work sheets to be completed as part of the sufferer’s homework.

The Mindful Way through depression: freeing yourself from chronic unhappiness
Williams, M., Teasdale, J., Segal, Z., & Kabat-Zin J. (2007). New York: The Guilford Press
The Mindful Way through depression is an excellent resource for those who struggle with recurrent depression or for people who would like to gain a better understanding of their mind and emotions. This book invites the reader to focus on their experience in their present moment in a non-judgmental way as this can break the cycle of rumination that maintains depression. This book is grounded on research that demonstrates the efficacy of the treatment suggested. The practical skills described in this book not only help those who read it to become aware of the mode of mind that maintains depression but also enable them to shift to an alternative mode of mind that is flexible and thus less painful. This book comes with a CD which includes guided meditation practices.

The Cognitive Behavioural Workbook for Depression: a step-by-step program
Knaus, W. J. & Ellis, A. (2006). Oakland: New Harbinger Publications
The authors of this workbook employ techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and rational emotive therapy (REBT) in order to help those suffering from depression to develop a personalised plan for change and overcome their depression. This is an excellent and comprehensive resource that is written in a user friendly language and tone.

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
Harris, R. and Hayes, S. (2008) Massachusetts: Trumpeter
This very engaging self-help guide challenges popular myths about the nature of happiness that often contribute to the onset and maintenance of depression and anxiety. Its main aim is to help readers become more psychologically flexible by increasing their awareness of the present moment and their ability to change by developing effective, value-driven action plans to build a rich and meaningful life. The guide is based on the principles of Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT) and incorporates useful real life examples, metaphors, and exercises.

Getting Better Bit(e) by Bit(e): A Survival Kit for Sufferers of Bulimia Nervosa and Binge Eating Disorders
Schmidt, U. & Treasure, J. (1993). Hove: Psychology Press
A very accessible self-help programme which is indeed a survival kit for sufferers of bulimia and binge eating disorders. By incorporating real life cases and motivational exercises, it enables sufferers to implement behavioural changes that help them overcome their eating difficulties. Core issues that contribute to the development and perpetuation of bulimia and binge eating disorder are also addressed.

Overcoming low self-esteem self-help course: A 3-part programme based on cognitive behavioural techniques
Fennell, M (2006). London:Robinson
This self-help CBT course comes in three workbooks which aim to facilitate the readers understand the origins of their low self esteem as well as change the thought patterns and behaviours contributing to and maintaining low self esteem. This is a consumer-friendly CBT course that includes multiple worksheets and charts to be completed by the readers as part of their daily CBT homework.

The Treatment of Drinking Problems: A Guide for the Helping Professions
Edwards, G., Marshall, E.J. & Cook C.H. (2003) Cambridge: Cambridge University Press
This is a guide for helping professionals working in the field, but is equally accessible to the lay person – sufferer or carer. A book that rewards the conscientious reader with a masterly understanding of the science and practicalities of alcohol dependence – a physical dependence- and the modes of its management. If you need to have a reliable well written source book on alcohol and its problems this should be on your list.

Overcoming your Alcohol or Drug Problem: effective recovery strategies (2nd ed)
Daley, D. C & Marlatt G. A. (2006). New York: Oxford University Press
This recovery workbook provides the user with practical information and skills to help them understand and change their substance related problem. It is designed to be used in therapy or counselling and is based on an evidence-based treatment with proven effectiveness. Besides this, the first few chapters of this book can help readers who do not acknowledge their addiction to substances to make the life- changing decision to quit and thus seek help for it. This easy to read book provides useful and practical information which helps users to understand the recovery process, identify how their substance abuse affects their lives and the lives of people close to them, learn skills to manage the challenges encountered in recovery and finally reduce the risk of future relapse. This workbook includes work sheets and home exercises.

Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through The Storm
by Thich Nhat Hanh

Anger: Buddhist Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
by Thich Nhat Hanh

Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety (Deckle Edge)
by Kelly G. Wilson

The Gifts Of Imperfection
by Brene Brown

Mindsight: Transform Your Brain with the New Science of Kindness
by Daniel Siegal

The Art of Being (Psychology/self-help)
by Erich Fromm

Mobile Applications

Headspace

Stop breath and think (Breathe)

Gratitude!

YouTube Videos

Mindfulness Meditation by Jon Kabat Zinn (1:12:04)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc

The power of vulnerability by Brene Brown (20:39)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

The power of addiction by Dr Gaber Mate (18.47)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66cYcSak6nE&t=8s

CONTACT AND APPOINTMENTS

If you feel that managing these feelings would be better treated with the help of an expert, you can ask for a referral from your general practitioner (GP), consultant psychiatrist, or other doctor and come to see one of our team of highly skilled psychiatrists and psychologists.